It seems that the church she goes to is the type that does not believe in "eternal security." For those of you who do not know what that means, it means that you are able to actually lose your salvation should you act bad enough. What ends up happening is that these people make themselves a little list and say things like, "If you do 'this' or 'that' then you aren't saved."
Kinda reminds me of the Pharisees.
Remember them? They were the people with all the 'rules of conduct' you were supposed to follow in order to not sin. The only problem is that rules don't save you.
True, once you are saved (meaning you believe that Jesus Christ died, was buried, and rose again and you ask him to be your Savior) your life should reflect that decision. Does it make you perfect? Of course not. You should however show some signs of growth and repentance.
Being judgmental is easy if you think you know everything. Some people better check themselves. Only God can know the condition of someone's heart. It is not up to us to determine someone's eternal destiny. Let the Holy Spirit do what John 14 says He does, and that is to teach us all things and convict us of our sin.
So here is the danger in believing you can lose your salvation: you run the risk of setting yourself up to be some sort of judge. Those that believe that way try to cite all manner of Bible verses to point out people's sins, but if you can lose your salvation (which is supposed to be eternal), what happens to hope? I'll tell you what happens, it goes out the window. If these people are going to use the Bible to tell me how bad I am, perhaps they should read those verses that actually give hope.
So listen, when Jesus says, "No one can snatch them from my hand," he means it. No one can.
Not even you.
